Without physical contact, are there horns?|The mail

Solange Vázquez

The Yankees have a saying to 'justify' their canites in the air and their riot when they go without the couple to the city of the casinos: 'What happens in Las Vegas remains in Las Vegas''.It comes to mean that what happens there –Borracheras, infidelities, evenings of 'striptease', lose the salary in the slots...- It will not exist 'once the trip ends.It is a kind of forgotten pact, a secular and very accepted 'acquittal', since they consider that in that environment so full of temptations it is almost impossible to maintain formality.

Well, something like this happens now: 'What happens in Pandemia, stays in Pandemia' '.Or not?Because it seems that the Covid era, which is playing to an end, has generated a wave of sexual activity - with an accompaniment or not of romantic additives - through mobile devices and social networks...And with third people."It has been tremendous, I would almost advocate for a 'general amnesty' that covers the last year and peak of Coronavirus," says the sexologist Jesus and.Rodríguez, who reveals that people who already had a predisposition to infidelity have fallen 'in recent times and that even men and women who have not presented that profile at all made their first steps.

One moment.But, if there is no physical contact, can we talk about horns?"It is very subjective, but it is true that social networks and new technologies have made the perception of the 'good' and the 'bad' be diluted," he says.Come on, we still have no response.And that in the last year there are studies, as a very recent one of the Ligue adoptantio app.com, where more than 70% of young people between 18 and 35 claim to have sent very hot messages, photos and sexual videos to people who were not their partner.Does it smell like burned horn?"Let's see, there is no clear thing about it, it depends totally on each couple, the limits they have defined and the concept of betrayal that you have," Rodríguez explains.Ufff, a philosophical debate that, in any case, it is better not to maintain if they have caught 'in fraganti'.

According to the expert, directed by the Murcian Institute of Sexology, with new technologies and networks there is a phenomenon worth studying: a personality dissociation.That is, in the virtual world we all create an 'avatar', an 'alter ego' that has something of our true personality and much of what we want to be but we cannot take shame, responsibility or social conventions.And tons of posture.Something that in the sexual field, where there are so many wishes and so many aspirations, is very evident."In virtual sexuality we show features very different from those of our real sexuality," says Rodríguez.As noted, that virtual being created to seduce not only hooks the person on the other side of the screen...He ends up hooking his own creator!This is what Rodriguez calls "double dissociation".Why does this phenomenon occur?Because the person who expresses his distance sexuality does so with less inhibitions, safely and perhaps with a mischief that is impossible for him to show face to face.In nearby distances people cut, make mistakes, have complexes, fear of 'failing' or panic to be caught.And that is why infidelities through mobile devices are so easy to commit: on the one hand, they do not require personal encounters - with everything that implies - and, on the other, people throw themselves more with the excuse (or not) ofWhat is a simple game.

«En la raya"

«Being unfaithful today is very easy: we have many more means to connect with other people –Whatsapp, Instagram, Telegram...- And also, sometimes they look for us.And it is always flattering that someone you like or admire gets in touch with you...There you can start a flirting.But, eye, infidelities always begin with something tiny and, without realizing it, they become great, ”says Mónica Dosil psychologist.And when does this happen to something else?For Dosil, there is a means of knowing it: "When the illusion of a virtual connection with someone surpasses that of connecting with the couple next to us".As he advises, if he has fallen into virtual infidelity, two things must be very clear: «The first, ask what our goal is (attention, feel, communication, sex...), What are we doing and why –subraya–.And the second, keep in mind that networks are a jungle and that you must learn their rules to survive ".If not, you end up as the last link in the food chain of unfaithful fauna.

In the Albobide Center, the sexologist Lurdes Washing has also appreciated that during the pandemic the values related to loyalty have 'relaxed': there have been many unequivocal horns and many others "that are in the line".Or beyond..., according to the interpretation of each.Have hormones go crazy due to pandemic stress?For her, people have wanted to compensate - go mobile, the easiest - for the many limitations suffered, but, above all, they believe that “we have been very needed to contact others, company...And we have sought in third parties more than sexual satisfaction ".